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The Fear Of Going Deep

One of the biggest fears coaches have – the fear of taking their clients deep. There’s this sense that deep down at the root of a client’s problems is fear, trauma, or pain so big you won’t know what to do. You’re afraid you’ll do damage. Afraid you’ll be clumsy. Afraid that you find yourself there and lacking and that it will rattle your coaching confidence to the very core. 

 

This fear leads to a host of problems:

  • You stay on the surface where it’s safe. 
  • You think of challenging questions, but you don’t ask them. 
  • You doubt yourself when you coach. 
  • You don’t create the space for your clients to feel all of their pain and fear. 
  • You never do the kind of deep work you see other great coaches do. 

 

So how do you address this? 

How do you know what to say? What to do? 

How do you prepare for something as a coach that’s unpredictable and a little scary? 

 

While I don’t have all the answers, let me share what I’ve learned so far. 


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You’re BAD At Hiring Coaches

Here’s what you want when you hire a coach:

  • You want to hire the best coach you can possibly hire. 
  • You don’t want them to cost TOO much
  • You want them to help you become more than you imagined. 
  • You want to be able to afford to work with them and be happy to refer them. 
  • It wouldn’t hurt
  • You want them to be inspiring

And yet, most coaches feel completely lost when it comes to finding a good coach to work with. They poke and prod, they guess around, they hire a celebrity (and are usually disappointed) they hire someone affordable (and you’re highly underwhelmed).

 

How do you avoid this? How do you hire a good coach you ‘afford’ that helps you get to where you want to go? 

 

It’s one of the most important and most challenging things you can do as a coach.

 

Let’s look at a few important ideas.

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7 Steps To Transform Your Life

It’s a new year, and many of us have been considering how we can become more of who we want to be this year. 

The best way to do this isn’t by making resolutions or only forming habits. The best way is by developing a deep understanding of who you are and declaring the life you want to create. The more you understand who you are and how you work and the more clear you are on what you’re up to in life, the more growth you’ll experience and the more satisfaction and possibility you’ll create for yourself and others. 

Of course, this is easy to talk about and hard to do. So in this guide, I’m going to break down how I look at change and some critical steps to discovering who you are and what you want to create in your life, as well as how you can get started. 

If you’d like some help with these BIG questions about life and growth, I invite you to do a Surrender Session with me all about what you want to create this year and in the years to come. I’ve already helped hundreds of people live lives of deeper meaning and satisfaction. And I’d love to help you too. 

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3 Questions To Ask This Year For Successful Professional Growth

Each year when we launch the dojo, I talk to dozens of coaches with one question on their mind:

 

What do I need to invest in and commit to growing professionally, become successful, and really make it as a coach? 

 

And each time I have that conversation, I can feel the pain and confusion in them as they try to choose. The amount of time most coaches spend trying to select the RIGHT program or coach is staggering because . . . Read more

Choosing To Be A Coach

You have to CHOOSE to be a coach.

Around this time of year, I begin to see posts by all my coaching friends about new year’s resolutions, strategic planning, and about creating the best possible year. I see new coaches starting social media challenges and seasoned coaches making bold declarations about acts of recommitment.

And yet for most coaches, this year will be much like the last:

– Sporadic attempts at enrollment
– Signing up for a new online course with high hopes then only watching half the videos
– Hiring a coach you think is excellent only to feel let down when you don’t get the results you want

There’s not a single reason why this happens to so many coaches, but there is one choice that I’ve seen make a big difference: The decision to be a coach.

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The Truth About Powerful Coaching Questions And How To Master This Art

Almost every new or promising coach I know is obsessed with the idea of powerful coaching questions.

We have lists of questions, books of questions, written scribbles of questions we collected at conferences, so many questions we don’t know what to do with them and yet we still have doubts.

Let’s say you learn a list of 5 powerful coaching questions to ask, somehow when you get into the session with a client they don’t quite work how you remember them working. The client is evasive, doesn’t answer the question quite how you expected, answers the question but then you’re not sure what to ask next.

Somehow no matter how much you study and collect questions, it’s never enough.

Why is this? What’s going on here? And what can you do about it?Read more

The Coaching Adventure Game… WINNERS!!!

For the past 3 weeks, coaches have been playing an EPIC game we created called The Coaching Adventure Game. It had 100 challenges, in a variety of areas all designed to get into action, have fun, and grow your coaching business.

Anyone who played the game is a winner because they’d be growing their business. However, it is a competition with prizes, so here are the official winners of the 2019 Coaching Adventure Game! Read more

How To Ask Super Powerful Questions

Every time I ask a powerful question there are 5 factors I keep in mind:

1. What’s the context?
What’s happening, in the client’s life, inside my body, in the client body, and the conversation.

2. What’s the bind?
Where is the client trapped or stuck, usually by some sort of unresolvable dilemma, impossible choice, or conflicting commitment? Read more

How One Powerful Question Could Make Your Coaching Conversations Worth $1200/Hour

Craig’s Story

Just last month, I stumbled across an opportunity for coaches with a financial background, so I reached out to a Dojo graduate and I was delighted by what he told me.

How To Develop Confidence In Your Questions

In many ways, questions are the core of coaching. So much so, that if you search for coaching questions you’ll get an ENDLESS list of 50 great coaching questions, 100 powerful questions, 1001 questions for any client.

Don’t get me wrong I LOVE reading list of questions as much as the next person.

But these lists never address the KEY challenge I see most coaches face.

Sure knowing good questions is helpful, but knowing which ones to ask and when is even more important, and trusting yourself to do that is perhaps the most important thing of all.Read more