One of the biggest fears coaches have – the fear of taking their clients deep. There’s this sense that deep down at the root of a client’s problems is fear, trauma, or pain so big you won’t know what to do. You’re afraid you’ll do damage. Afraid you’ll be clumsy. Afraid that you find yourself there and lacking and that it will rattle your coaching confidence to the very core.
This fear leads to a host of problems:
- You stay on the surface where it’s safe.
- You think of challenging questions, but you don’t ask them.
- You doubt yourself when you coach.
- You don’t create the space for your clients to feel all of their pain and fear.
- You never do the kind of deep work you see other great coaches do.
So how do you address this?
How do you know what to say? What to do?
How do you prepare for something as a coach that’s unpredictable and a little scary?
While I don’t have all the answers, let me share what I’ve learned so far.