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ODSC Framework #5: The Open – Bad Coach Distortion

This is our fifth post in the series about the four key parts of an incredible coaching conversation. (See previous: Introduction, The Open – Context, The Open – Agreements, The Open – Building Rapport)

This section of The Open is about bad coach distortion.

Sometimes the lack of self-trust as a coach can be detrimental to the transition from proposal to client. There are ways to prep yourself and slow yourself down, to get into your body and avoid jeopardizing the session with your client. Toku identifies this struggle as the “bad coach distortion” in the Open phase and explains how you can get out of it by staying present.

 

ODSC Framework #4: The Open – Building Rapport

This is the fourth post in the series about the four key parts of an incredible coaching conversation. (See previous: Introduction, The Open – Context, The Open – Agreements)

We’re still deep in the phase called “The Open;” this post centers on building rapport.

We often think that building rapport only occurs in the beginning of a relationship with a client. It’s important to know that building rapport is actually something that is ongoing. It’s necessary not only to create, but also to maintain, the foundation of trust with your client. Toku discusses the best way to do this in the Open phase.

 

ODSC Framework #3: The Open – Agreements

This is the third post in the series about the four key parts of an incredible coaching conversation. (See previous: Introduction, The Open – Context)

We’re still discussing the Open, but now we’re shifting the focus to agreements.

Agreements Part 1: the Key 4 Agreements

Do you feel that your ongoing sessions aren’t powerful enough? How strong is the trust between you and your client? Establishing your key agreements helps create a powerful container where anything is possible. In Part 1, Toku dives into the key 4 agreements that allow him to serve his clients best.
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ODSC Framework #2 – The Open – Context

This is the second post in the series about the four key parts of an incredible coaching conversation, what we’re calling the ODSC Framework (Open-Drop-Shift-Close).

(Check out Part 1 – Introduction here.)

Do you doubt whether the work you deliver matters? Do you find your conversations aren’t as powerful as they used to be? In your opening, focusing on fine-tuning the context around your conversation will be the key solution to some of these doubts you have in your coaching ability. Toku explores a few ways to do this.

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The 4 Parts of an Incredible Coaching Conversation: Introduction (ODSC #1)

This is the first post in the series about the four key parts of an incredible coaching conversation.

Many coaches around the world focus heavily on topics like your coaching mindset and your being, but there doesn’t seem to be enough about what it takes to make powerful conversations. There are key points to maintain that will help you create stronger conversations and drive better enrollment opportunities.

In this introduction, Toku shares a bit about the four parts of the ODSC Framework: Open, Drop, Shift, and Close. In subsequent videos he’ll dive deeper into each of the parts and what makes them truly effective.

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Triggering Your Client / The Pain of Going Back

Part 1: Triggering Your Client

For much of my early coaching journey, I did my best to avoid triggering clients and prospects. Sure, I challenged them, but I was very careful to avoid the red line between what was hard and what caused them to get reactive. Even before I was a coach, I put a lot of work into developing the relational energy and communication skills needed to avoid triggering others, identify when I am being triggered, and getting out of a triggered state as quickly as possible.

But during a recent coaching session something different happened. I triggered this amazing woman I was talking to, but instead of getting scared and employing my anti-trigger defense system, I got curious. I slowed down. I mean way, way, way down. I stayed with her. I tried very hard to not think of this trigger as a bad thing, but as the exact thing she needed to experience. I focused on trusting her fully.Read more

Articles on The Power of Practice

One of the things I love to do is read up on the Power Of Practice. Below are some of my favorite articles on this subject.

Harvard Business Review: “The Making of an Expert”
https://hbr.org/2007/07/the-making-of-an-expert

Business Insider – “A top psychologist says there’s only one way to become the best in your field — but not everyone agrees”
http://www.businessinsider.com/anders-ericsson-how-to-become-an-expert-at-anything-2016-6

eLearning Industry – “7 Gold Standards Of Deliberate Practice: Why Max Verstappen Has No Talent”
https://elearningindustry.com/7-gold-standards-deliberate-practiceRead more

Where Do You Find Clients? (Video)

Honorable Enrollment Video #3

Toku shares: “Coaches tell me all the time: I don’t know where to find clients. Here’s how I’ve learned to create a mindset that reveals opportunities for service everywhere you go.”

Putting Barriers in Front (Video)

Honorable Enrollment Video #2

 

 
Toku talks about how we put barriers in front of taking action and gaining the confidence we need to connect with the people we long to serve.

Creating a Powerful Context (Video)

Honorable Enrollment Video #1

This is the first of a series of videos all about uncovering the incredible opportunities to serve your prospects during the enrollment process.

Toku shares a video about why it’s essential to define what motivates you in order to create a strong foundation for serving and enrolling clients.