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On Seeing as an Art Form

(Context described in 3 Key Coaching Pillars)

Excerpt from “Oil Painting Secrets From A Master

“What is painting? Painting is visual. If you cannot see, you cannot understand what painting involves, which is seeing in a totally different way from the seeing that takes place in everyday life. You must hear what the teacher expresses verbally and then see with your own eyes the translation in reality. Obviously, you can’t see it with the teacher’s eyes. You can’t learn about painting through someone else’s experiences, only through your own. Read more

3 Key Coaching Pillars

I believe coaching is an art form. There are SO many ways to coach and none are inherently good or bad. The choices are dependent on the situation, the coach, the client, the delivery, the emotions, the container, the context, and so much more.

However, amidst all of the choices, there are 3 “pillars” that create a powerful foundation.

If one of these pillars is underdeveloped, your coaching will suffer as a result. And alternatively, you can continue to strengthen each of them to improve your coaching. Read more

A Short Guide On Responding To Clients With Nothing to Talk About

Every so often, a client will show up to a coaching conversation saying: “I don’t know what to talk about.”

When this happens it can be tricky to know how to respond especially because it can trigger fears many coaches including myself have. Fears that we aren’t actually good at what we do, fears that we’ll run out of things to coach around, and fears that we can’t possibly justify the high fees we charge just to ‘talk to us.’

However, this is actually an amazing opportunity, if you understand why it’s happening and learn how to serve your clients powerfully from this place.

In this guide, I offer some of the most common problems I’ve encountered with clients who claim they have nothing to talk about, and offer some ideas for how you might address this as a coach. Of course, I don’t want to give the impression that this list is comprehensive or that these solutions are perfect.
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Capacity vs. Insight

If you want to change the lives of your clients, you can’t just change the surface of their lives. You have to get down underneath the stories and beliefs and shift the foundational principles that rule their lives. But in order to do this, you have to guide your clients passed their normal blocks and into a place where this kind of deep transformation occurs.

And I’d like to share one distinction I’ve found incredibly valuable in this pursuit.

Coaching for Insight Vs Coaching for CapacityRead more

The 5 Whys Blueprint

Every coach with a desire to do deep work, longs to help create a powerful shift in each and every conversation. And while the depth that you go with a client is dependent on many factors, the place you start from is perhaps the most important.

Imagine if you had to have a bullet removed from your shoulder. Would you want the doctor to open up your chest and go up to search for the bullet? Or would you prefer they find the spot the bullet entered and dig into the hole it made to find it and pull it out?

If this answer seems obvious it shouldn’t be. Many coaches out of ignorance, enthusiasm, or both start performing open chest surgery before truly understanding where to begin their work. Read more

The Primacy of Practice

Perhaps the best lesson I’ve had to learn over and over again as a coach is that there are no shortcuts to greatness. There is no secret to being a better coach, no secret to learning to master enrollment. These things require knowledge and understanding, yes, but more importantly, they require experience. Read more

The Art Of Transitioning From Serving To Selling

After reflecting on my own experience of enrollment, talking to a myriad of coaches about their challenges, and spending hours thinking and studying the process of enrollment itself. I’ve found there are 3 places coaches typically lose clients. While these places are subtle and at the edges of where we often put our attention, mastery of these 3 weak points can lead a coach to vastly improve their chances in creating clients in a skillful and honorable way.  Read more