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You only need to care about the DROP if you want to be a great coach

Most coaches don’t need to worry about the Drop. Not because the Drop doesn’t happen in a coaching conversation. But because the Drop is built in to their model of coaching.Read more

The #1 Coaching Blindspot

What amazes me about coaching mastery isn’t the complexity of the blindspots coaches have, but the simplicity of them.
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What Are the Best Questions to Ask to Start a Coaching Conversation?

NOTICE: Tomorrow we’re hosting a Micro-Dojo webinar called

Death to Zombie Coaching Sessions!
(How to prevent brain dead sessions that go nowhere)

In this session we’re going to:

  • break down how Master Coaches start their coaching sessions,
  • talk about the most common mistakes that cost coaches clients and impact, and
  • help you learn how to create powerful openings that prevent your sessions from dying a death of Zombie mediocrity.

Today is the last day to register, so if you want to learn how to start you sessions like a master coach, register here: https://www.samuraicoachingdojo.com/micro-dojo-zombieRead more

How to Open (i.e., Being Human with Other Humans)

(a guest post by Sensei Bay LeBlanc Quiney)

Hey you! Nice work, getting into connection with a potential client! That’s awesome! Someone asked you for a conversation of possibility, or you invited them, and they said yes. Read more

Day 5 of How to Start a Coaching Conversation Like a Master Coach (The Mixtape):

Five Questions I Stole from the World’s Best Coaches, Why They Work, and How to Use Them to Start Powerful Coaching Conversations Today!

Today our little OPEN phase series on how to start a coaching conversation like a master coach comes to an end, with my favorite question: “What would you like?”

I had to answer this question at the start of almost every single coaching conversation I had with my coach Jeff Riddle. Part OPEN phase question, part DROP question, I learned to love and hate it as client and as coach. But in learning why the question worked and how to use it, I also learned how to avoid the pitfall we see almost every single coach make when they first enter the Dojo…Read more

Day 4 of How to Start a Coaching Conversation Like a Master Coach (The Mixtape):

Five Questions I Stole from the World’s Best Coaches, Why They Work, and How to Use Them to Start Powerful Coaching Conversations Today!

While part of me would love to spend this entire post talking about the simplicity of The Work as well as its limitations, for now we’re just going to look at the OPEN/DROP questions and why they work to open a session powerfully no matter the subject and how you can use their simplicity to know how to create possibility even when you feel out of your depth as a coach.

But first, some background… Read more

Day 3 of How to Start a Coaching Conversation Like a Master Coach (The Mixtape):

Five Questions I Stole from the World’s Best Coaches, Why They Work, and How to Use Them to Start Powerful Coaching Conversations Today!

So far we’ve listened to the situational brilliance of Tony Robbins’s powerhouse hit (“What’s changed?”) and Rich Litvin’s classic (“What would make this an extraordinary conversation?”). And today we’re going to listen to Michael Neil’s Alt-Coach anthem: “What if you didn’t have to have a question? What if we both looked in a direction and saw what there was to see?”Read more

Day 2 of How to Start a Coaching Conversation Like a Master Coach (The Mixtape):

Five Questions I Stole from the World’s Best Coaches, Why They Work, and How to Use Them to Start Powerful Coaching Conversations Today!

This week I’m working on a series of post about my favorite opening questions / gambits / strategies of some of the world’s best and best-known coaches.

Yesterday we looked at a great OPEN/DROP question by Tony Robbins (“What’s changed?”) and today we’re going to look at the classic “What would make this an extraordinary conversation?” by Rich Litvin. Read more

Day 1 of How to Start a Coaching Conversation Like a Master Coach (The Mixtape):

Five Questions I Stole from the World’s Best Coaches, Why They Work, and How to Use Them to Start Powerful Coaching Conversations Today!

In the annals of coaching geekdom, I hope that someday there is a shrine to the total and utter dorky obsession that I have offered to the study of master coaches. I’ve spent hours watching sessions of some of the world’s best and best-known coaches, including Tony Robbins, Rich Litvin, Michael Neil, Byron Katie and plenty of others.

And while I collected a lot of questions and learned their RCFs (resting coach faces) pretty well, it wasn’t until I started putting them through the Coaching Canvas* that I started to realize this simple magic of their opening gambits.Read more

How Should I Start a Coaching Conversation?

Every coaching conversation that ever was had to start somewhere. Whether it was a life-altering session that changed the course of human history or the worst conversation any coach has ever had, all conversations have to start.

So how in the hell are you supposed to figure how to start it?

When I was a new coach, I loved being in the mix of a powerful conversation. I could feel my clients getting insights and new understandings, I could feel the next question on my lips, but at times starting a coaching session felt a little like starting a make-out session. Polite but awkward conversation, tentative advances and subtle cues, and a fair degree of uncertainty and self-consciousness. Read more